Dating is one of the most exciting times of life. It's an opportunity to meet someone new, engage in activities the both of you like, and possibly work towards building a future together. What if you have a PFA on your record? How does that even work when it comes to dating?
A PFA is a protective order that provides protective relief from someone who's being harmed or who is in danger of being harmed by someone else. Having a PFA filed against you could make dating horrific at worst and uncomfortable at best. By its very name, a PFA order seems extremely threatening. What are you supposed to do if you have one filed against you and you're trying to date?
Do You or Don't You Tell?
If you're beginning to date and you have a PFA filed against you, one question you may be struggling with is if you inform your dates.
Even if a PFA order was incorrectly issued against you - or you believe that it was - never go out of your way to conceal that information from someone you're serious about dating. By being upfront in the beginning, you show that you're being honest about an extremely difficult part of your life, possibly making it easier for them to trust you as an individual versus a stat.
Additionally, if you're not truthful upfront about your situation and your date finds out, they'll assume it's because you have something to hide. Even if that's not the case, the damage has already been done.
By being honest, you avoid all of the discomfort that comes from not telling the truth.
Will Having A PFA Order Against You Make It Impossible to Meet New People?
The truth is it's going to be hard to explain to people why you have a PFA. Knowing that someone has a protective order against them is a hard pill to swallow.
How people react to your PFA depends on how they found out about it. By being completely upfront, you're letting them know what the situation is and allowing them to make a decision for themselves.
If you're not upfront, it will seem like you're hiding information. Even if you hadn't disclosed the information because you weren't sure how to broach it, the fact that they found out on their own will make things extraordinarily difficult for you going forward.
You have to let people know and decide for themselves. Ultimately you want people to know you for you. If they stick around, you may have found people who have faith in you.
It's Going to Be Difficult: Get Legal Help
A PFA order on your record is not a good look, and it may make dating extremely difficult for you. The very essence of a PFA is about safety, and no one wants to be around people who are deemed unsafe. If you're in danger of getting one filed against you, you need legal help.
Attorney Joseph D. Lento has years of experience helping people navigate PFA orders, providing them with the defense they need to move forward with their lives.
Reach out to the Lento Law Firm for help at 888-535-3686 today to schedule an evaluation of your case. Your future may depend on it.